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Please copy
these Planning Points with the responses you are able to make at this
time
and send them to me at vern@cres.org. 1a. Wedding date and
ceremony start time. 2b. Name in ceremony (James or Jim) LEARN MORE 2c. Age today 2d. Address 2e. Phone(s) 2f. Email address 3a. Second Person's legal name 3b. Name in ceremony (Joan or Jo) LEARN MORE 3c. Age today 3d. Address 3e. Phone(s) 3f. Email address 4. Will you have
a marriage license from
the state in which the wedding will take place (Missouri at Pilgrim
Chapel) or is this
wedding a ceremonial occasion without legal considerations? please include the names of your two adult witnesses to sign the documents (license, certificate) here: 6. As far as religion
goes, the ceremony should
be a. We wish traditional vows. b. We will write our own, perhaps adapting these suggestions. #aboutReadings 8. About readings -- a. We want no readings. b. From the list here we want the following, numbered . . . . c. We have chosen other reading(s), namely: ---- x. We want the minister to do the reading. y. The person(s) to offer the reading(s): 9. How many people (total everyone) might attend? 10. If you are presently out of town, when will you both will arrive in Kansas City? -=:::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::=- In addition to the couple and minister, others may be involved in ceremony. Same-sex couples can adapt as they wish. Besides the two witnesses, wedding roles may be -- Examples for large wedding-- Bride's Escort: George Brown, Jane's father Bride's presenter: Bride's Mom and Dad Groom's presenter: Groom's Mom and Uncle Tim Matron or Maid of Honor: Mary Green, bride's aunt Best Man: Tom Thomison, groom's best friend Bridesmaids: Lucy Toms, Jane Wit Groomsmen: Larry Toms, Sam Wilton Flower Girl or Boy: Jane Smith, Jim's daughter (5 yrs old) Ring-bearer: Timmy Smith, Jim's son (6 yrs old) Ushers: Groom's brother, Bride's aunt Readers: John Barnes, Bride's uncle Guest Book attendant: Jack Carnes, neighbor Flower duty: If the bride carries flowers and has no attendant standing with her, who will hold the flowers from after the formal welcome until just before the concluding benediction? Musician: Felicia Limon, guitar Sound Engineer: Jonathan Loksan, friend Photography: Jack Carnes, Super Photo Studio Videographer: Salli Keps, Glory Memories, Inc 12. After you
are dressed and ready for the
ceremony, 13. Will you exchange
rings? 14.
Do you want to include
your children in a vow ceremony?
15.
Your entrance / processional
plans: 16. Please include a remembrance of those not with us by name: 17.
Any announcements
you want made by the minister, such as 18.
Your plans for music:
live / recorded / none 19.
Your plans for photography:
#sequence
Witnesses sign license, certificate LEARN
MORE Welcome by the minister Consent and Presentations Prayer [if desired] Reading(s) [if desired] Exchanging of Vows and rings [Any special rite] Pronouncement and embrace Benediction [or Farewell Wish] Recessional 21. If you have a wedding announcement or registry site (theknot.com, zola.com, appycouple.com, withjoy.com, etc), noting it here will help me get acquainted and prepare for your wedding. 22. The "paperwork" includes both a License and a Certificate. The Marriage Certificate is yours to keep. (A Certified Copy of the License can be sent to you if you requested it when applying for your License, or you can request it later.) a. We will return the License to the Court. b. We'd prefer you to return the License. ------------------------------------------ EXAMPLES OF SPECIAL RITES The couple provides the equipment and materials ------------------------------------------
ABOUT THE INFORMAL GREETING By welcoming your guests to what may be for them an unfamiliar place, with appropriate reminders (such as the custom of standing when the bride appears) and previewing the ceremony, a more comfortable and enjoyable wedding for everyone can then begin. #nickname NAME USED IN CEREMONY Let me know if you prefer to be called by your familiar name ("nickname") during the wedding (Jim instead of James, Babs instead of Barbara). #signing WITNESSES SIGN MARRIAGE DOCUMENTS Before the wedding, after I prepare the license and certificate, I invite the witnesses to sign. Most brides and grooms want to be with their guests or have photos taken and not fuss with paperwork after the ceremony, and chasing down the witnesses can be awkward. Taking care of the legal requirements before the ceremony works well for everyone. #more_ideas MORE IDEAS Your wedding should be what you want it to be. When we visit to plan the ceremony, as I get to know you, I may have suggestions for achieving your desires. If you wish to examine ideas available on the web for additional ideas before we meet, here is one website that may be helpful. |
