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We draw upon the world’s secular and religious traditions, respecting the perspectives of both doubter and believer.


“Vern designed a ceremony 
for us that welcomed 
our child into our faith 
but also blessed 
our entire family 
and our friends
as we shared our joy
and commitment.”

 

Baptism, child blessing, naming, and other terms are used to celebrate the dedication of a child into divine care. Your own religious traditions are important in creating a ceremony that honors your child and gathers those close to you around you for the sacred occasion.

Pilgrim Chapel is an exceptionally beautiful site for your ceremony, and I am delighted to assist you in planning it and leading it.
     Whether you want a traditional, multi-faith, civil, or unique rite, and whether you plan a small private or larger public ceremony, your desires are embraced as we arrange a joyous occasion for you, your family, and friends.

1. Planning the ceremony

To help in planning and to prepare the certificate, these points may be useful:
 

1. What is the child's name? 
2. When and where was the child born?
3. What are the full names of the parents?
4. Who will be present for the ceremony? --
       Will siblings be present?
       If so, what are their names and ages?
5. Will designate sponsors or godparents be selected?
       What is their relationship to the child?
6. Would you like this to be a specifically 
       Christian baptism or use materials 
       from other traditions?
7. Do you have readings to be part of the ceremony?
       Who will read them?
8. Is live or recorded music part of your wish?
9. Do you plan to engage a photographer 
       or will one of your guests take pictures?
10. If you have specific ideas for the ceremony, 
       a ceremony from your own tradition,
       or would like me to send you a sample 
       standard service, let me know.
11. Normally I provide a Certificate, a rosebud, 
       and a beeswax baptismal candle as mementos 
       of the ceremony. Click on the links to see a 
       sample Cerificate and the program folder.
11a. Might you have additional wishes?
12. Fees are arranged through Pilgrim Chapel.
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If you like, I would be very happy to meet at your convenience to plan the ceremony. I want to be sure we do everything appropriate to make this a most joyous and significant occasion for everybody involved.

Or we can complete the planning by email and over the phone by using the form linked here.


2. Common parts of a Baptism, Naming, or Child Dedication service

     Welcome
     Reading and/or Prayer
     Words to Parents
     Words to Sponsors
     Words to Guests
     Words to Entire Gathering
     Baptism with water, rosebud, and candle
     [Presentation of Family Medallion by sibling]
     Closing Blessing
     Signing and Presentation of the Certificate 


3. About the minister

Dr Vern Barnet, ordained in 1970, founded CRES in 1982 as a multi-faith resource for Kansas City, and in 1989 created the Greater Kansas City Interfaith Council. For eighteen years, his column, “Faiths and Beliefs,” appeared each Wednesday in The Kansas City Star into his retirement.
     The recipient of many awards for his civic and professional activities, and author of numerous articles, poems, and reviews, and several books, he has taught at area colleges and seminaries, and has studied and spoken throughout the United States and abroad. 
      Bio sketch and photos.
     He prefers to be called simply “Vern” — though if you wish to include his name 
on a printed program, please use this style:
The Reverend Vern Barnet, DMn.
4. Fees
     Fees for the minister’s services are included 
     with Pilgrim Chapel arrangements.


5. Meeting to plan the ceremony
    I am sometimes able to meet in the evening,
         some Saturdays during the day, 
         and some Sunday afternoons. 
    I suggest the Westport Coffee House,
        4010 Pennsylvania.
    By coordinating with the Pilgrim Chapel office, 
         it is also possible to meet there.
    In some cases, consultation may be most 
         convenient by phone and/or email.
    If possible, please complete the planning sheet
    ahead of time with as much information 
    as you have currently.


6. For additional information

     Email me, vern@cres.org
     My desk and cell phone numbers 
     are also available for your convenience.


7. Our approach

Pilgrim Chapel and I want planning 
your ceremony to be convenient 
and enjoyable, and your ceremony extraordinarily joyous and memorable.
Vern Barnet



Favorite Readings


a. from
CHRISTIAN SCRIPTURE 
[Matthew 18:1-5]

At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, Who is the greatest in the kingdom of Heaven? He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of Heaven. . . . . Whoever receives on such child in my name receives me.” 
 

b. adapted from KAHIL GIBRAN’S 
THE PROPHET 

Your children are not your children.
     They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
     They come through you but not from you,
     And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
     You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
     For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,
     For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
     For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
     You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
     The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
     Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
     For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
 

c. adapted from 
The Presentation 
of the Family Medallion (R)
copyright 2004 Clergy Services, Inc.

In the Scriptures, a basis for family relationships is found in the Book of Ecclesiastes. “Two are stronger than one,” it says, “and a cord of three strands is not easily broken.”
--(Ecclesiastes. 4:9a, 12b)
     In recognition of this family and the family nature of God's creation, we present to Marin this Family Medallion. With its three merged circles, the Family Medallion represents a strong cord of three strands. It is a symbol for love that is greater than a relationship of two people, a love that reaches out to include others. In the giving of this symbol, we pledge to you our continuing love and support.

 






Please download the Planning PDF here or copy the following into an email with your responses (or mail to Vern Barnet, Box 45414, Kansas City, MO 64171):
 

1. What is the child's name?

2. When and where was the child born born?

3. What are the full names of her parents?

4. Who will be present for the ceremony? --  Will siblings be present?  If so, what are their names and ages?

5. Will designate sponsors or godparents be selected? What is their relationship to the child?

6. Would you like this to be a specifically Christian baptism or use materials from other traditions?

7. Do you have readings to be part of the ceremony? Who will read them?

8. Is live or recorded music part of your wish?

9. Do you plan to engage a photographer or will one of your guests take pictures?

10. If you have specific ideas for the ceremony, a ceremony from your own tradition, or if would like me to send you a sample standard service, let me know.

11. Normally I provide a Certificate, a rosebud, and a beeswax baptismal candle as mementos of the ceremony. Click on the links to see a sample Cerificate and the program folder.
11a. Might you have additional wishes?

12. Fees are arranged through Pilgrim Chapel.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 




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Dear  --

Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage! -- at Pilgrim Chapel      , with a rehearsal the day before,

Catherine may have already sent you this link with helpful information:
http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm  .

Wherever you are in your preparations, you may find it useful to download the planning sheet at http://www.cres.org/work/WedPlan-PC.pdf .

I'll be happy to visit with you to arrange exactly the kind of wedding you want. Let me know when you are ready. We can schedule a time to meet by email, or you can call my desk 816 753 1633.

I look forward to meeting you and celebrating your wedding!

Vern
 

http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm#6
So glad this will work! This will give us plenty of time to design the kind of wedding you want. Let's meet at the "default" location mentioned on the website,  the Westport Coffee House, 4010 Pennsylvania. It's about a mile west of Pilgrim Chapel. I'm eager to help make the wedding planning process part of the excitement of your preparations!
Vern