We draw upon the world’s secular and religious traditions,
respecting the perspectives of both doubter and believer.
at Pilgrim Chapel
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Chapel is an exceptionally beautiful
site for your
wedding, and I am delighted the folks there have invited me to lead your ceremony.
Whether you want a
traditional, civil, multi-faith,
The folks at Pilgrim
Chapel and I want planning
When Pilgrim Chapel asks me to preside over your marriage ceremony, I write you to let you know I look forward to sharing your wedding day.
I'll ask you some basic questions so I can get started helping you plan. I'll refer you to some resources on this web site. We can plan together what you want easily by email.
You have rented an extraordinary facility for your wedding. I always enjoy working with the great Pilgrim Chapel staff. The place is clean, beautiful, safe, and adaptable. But because your rental is brief, you may need to plan your time carefully. The place is so popular, there may be an event right before or right after your rental.
* The doors open 15 minutes before the beginning of your rental time to you and to your guests, so you may want to announce a ceremony time a few minutes after your rental begins, and remind your guests not to arrive before the doors open. If you have musicians and photographers, or you have placed an order from a florist, please let them also know not to arrive until your rental time begins.You can have a complete, unrushed, and beautiful ceremony by planning the time well. If you may need more time, I suggest you contact the folks at Pilgrim Chapel to see if a longer rental might be possible. The staff there and I are eager to make your wedding all that you want it to be.
2b. Name to be used in ceremony LEARN MORE
2c. Age today
2f. Email address
3a. Second Person's legal name
3b. Name to be used in ceremony LEARN MORE
3c. Age today
3f. Email address
4. Will you have a
Missouri marriage license or
please include the names of your
two adult witnesses
to sign the license and certificate here: ________
If the wedding is just the two of you,
let the folks at Pilgrim Chapel and me know
so we can provide two witnesses to sign
the legal documents.
6. As far as religion
goes, the ceremony should
a. We wish traditional vows.
b. We will write our own,
perhaps adapting these suggestions.
8. About readings --
a. We want no readings.
b. From the list here
we want the following, numbered . . . .
c. We have chosen other reading(s),
8. x. We want the minister to do the reading.
y. The person(s) to offer the reading(s):
9. How many people (total everyone) might attend?
10. If you are
presently out of town,
in addition to the witnesses (#5 above)
12. After you
are dressed, ready for the
13. Will you exchange
14. Please include a
of those not with us
15. Your plans for music:
live / recorded / none
Your plans for photography:
Informal Greeting and Lighting of Candles if appropriate
Prelude and special seatings if any
Welcome by the minister
Consent and Presentations
Prayer [in a religious ceremony]
Reading(s) if desired
Vows and Rings and any special rite
Pronouncement and embrace
Benediction or Farewell Wish
18. If you have a wedding announcement
or registry site (theknot.com, zola.com,
appycouple.com, withjoy.com, etc),
noting it here will help me get acquainted
and prepare for your wedding.
NAME USED IN CEREMONY
Let me know if you prefer to be called
by your familiar name ("nickname")
during the wedding (Jim instead of James).
This is the usual way the wedding party is arranged
WITNESSES SIGN MARRIAGE DOCUMENTS
Before the wedding, after I prepare the license and certificate, I invite the witnesses to sign. Most brides and grooms want to be with their guests or have photos taken and not fuss with paperwork after the ceremony, and chasing down the witnesses can be awkward. Taking care of the legal requirements before the ceremony works well for everyone.
About the marriage license:
Pilgrim Chapel marriages require a Missouri License, good for 30 days. Some couples request a Certified Copy when they apply for the License to be mailed to them after the wedding. The courthouse will provide you with both a License for me to return* and a Certificate which is yours to keep after the ceremony.
When you arrive at the Chapel, please place the envelope with the documents on the altar-table.
Then, while your guests are gathering, I'll take about five minutes to prepare documents, and then I’ll invite your two adult witnesses to sign. You have nothing to sign.
Here is more information about the License:
Here is Jackson County's Marriage License website: https://www.jacksongov.org/Government/Departments/Recorder-of-Deeds/Apply-for-a-Marriage-License
* You are welcome to return the license to the courthouse yourselves -- I'll just ask you to sign a receipt to relieve me of this legal responsibility.