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Special Advice for Weddings

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Guidance from the Mayor's office and health officials 
continue to be updated. 
why this is important
As the Pandemic Recedes
As the Pandemic Continues

UPDATE 2021 Aug 2 - Sept 23
Jackson County until Oct 7.
Mayor  Lucas  issues  a  mandatory  mask requirement for vaccinated and unvaccinated.

Your officiant's policy is likely to be updated only 
when local hospitals and other health-care facilities 
no longer require masks for staff, visitors, 
and most patients. It either echoes
or is stricter than legal

Extra Wedding Attire

Masks in the Chapel building 
are now required for "all persons five and older, regardless of vaccination status."
Only well people should 
attend the wedding.

--Vern Barnet's policy

[Superseded by red policy above.]
Masks in the Chapel building are still recommended,
and only well people should attend.
Although I am fully vaccinated, unless everyone
attending is verifiably vaccinated, I will continue to
model respectful social leadership by wearing a mask,

with special exceptions  in  very particular   situations.

  The focus of a wedding, and wedding planning, should be the expression of your love and commitment. This is such a happy thing, and I always feel so wonderfully privileged to be a part of the celebration. All of the weddings I have done at Pilgrim Chapel and elsewhere since 2020 March 20 after the Mayor's mask order have been wonderfully joyous occasions, despite the extra attire. 

Should any of your invited family members and guests indicate ahead of time that they do not want to wear masks and are not fully vaccinated, please feel free to share this with them.

Masks protect both the wearer and those around the wearer by limiting the transmission of the virus to others as well as reducing the likelihood of the wearer becoming infected. 

You, as bride and groom, are not required to wear masks during the ceremony, but if your attendants are uncomfortable with being close to you during the ceremony, you might consider wearing a mask along with everyone else except for the embrace after you are pronounced married.

The folks at Pilgrim Chapel and I are masked even though we have been vaccinated  because even those vaccinated can trasmit Covid in all its variants. We would not want to take any chance of transmitting the virus in any of its variants to you or your guests. Since the virus can be transmitted by aerosol up to 16 feet away in closed spaces, it is difficult to be certain that one is not a spreader, especially if one has no symptoms. I am masked to model for, and reassure your guests, that the wedding environment is safe.

Vaccinations can be up to 95% effective, but that means that 5 persons out of every 100 are are susceptible to the disease if    exposed to it.The new variants are particularly transmissible. Even before the wide spread of the Delta variant, just through April of 2021, some 10,262 breakthrough infections of vaccinated people hospitalized were reported and 160 had died. Since then, the numbers have become worse. 

Ventilation is why I ask the Chapel staff to turn on the ceiling fans.

All guests at a wedding will want to show that they cherish the couple, the families, and friends gathered for the occasion by wearing masks properly *unless every single person at the wedding has varifiably completedthe vaccination protocol and you wish a maskless ceremony. 

Although surface contagion is rare, right before and after the ceremony, I sanitize my hands so any objects I touch that you will touch will be as safe as possible.

If you might want a photo of me without a mask, photographers have found that I can stand outside on the steps of the Chapel with the couple without masks some distance ahead of me. A photo at the Chapel door makes a lovely picture. A quick photo inside is also possible, depending on the timing and the position of the guests.


Masks are worn to cover the nose and the mouth. Here is a link to good advice about masks. Children under 2 should not wear masks.
     About 40 percent of infections are transmitted by people who have no symptoms and do not know they are infected. Gargles like Listerine for even 30 seconds (a minute is better) appear to greatly reduce the chance of transmitting the contagion and should be practiced by everyone before attending a public event, even though it does not afford much protection, if any, to the person who gargles. 
     Since we cannot be certain we are not infected (unless we have been quarantined for 14 days or maybe if we have been vaccinated), we should gargle and wear a mask to express our regard and affection for those around us. 
My reasoning is based on what I understand are the factors in air transmission as they apply to us:
- viral load
- variant
- distance
- exposure time
- ventilation
- interventions and mitigations (like masks and gargles)
Chlorhexidine gluconate is available by prescription and may have side-effects.

NYTimes; How to Double-Mask

NYTimes: Masks Protect

NYTimes on masks

WaPo on masks


BRIDE DIES -- A colleague of mine recently performed a wedding at which guests did not wear masks. Shortly after the wedding, the bride and groom were sick with COVID and the bride died in the hospital. Masks are such a small inconvenience to prevent such sorrow.