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Greetings, NAME
Congratulations and Best Wishes on your forthcoming marriage! I am always glad when the folks at Pilgrim Chapel (816.753.6719) call on me to officiate as it is such a beautiful venue. I enjoy helping couples plan a wedding that best expresses their wishes.
You might want some ceremony ideas, information about the license, a little about me, and such http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm .
Wherever you are in your preparations, you may want to download the Wedding Planning Notes http://www.cres.org/work/WeddingPlanNotes.pdf .
Id be happy
to visit with you both to plan your ceremony http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm#6
. A good place to meet is the Westport Coffee House, 4010 Pennsylvania,
about a mile west of Pilgrim Chapel http://www.cres.org/pubs/map_westport.htm#WestportCoffeeHouse.
Most weeks
I can meet Mondays at 9:30 am, Tuesdays at 7 pm, Fridays at 10 am, and
Saturdays at 8 am -- or at another time we might arrange. Since
the wedding is months away, there is no rush, but I'll be eager when you
two are ready to plan the ceremony.
Let me know when you two are ready. There is no hurry, but whenever you want to get together, let's make the time.
But for now,
please email me
* Both your
legal names and ages if I've made a mistake or omission in
the red heading above.
* The announced
starting
time for the ceremony if that has been decided.
* How many
guests
you might expect if you have a rough estimate.
* If you plan
a rehearsal (most weddings do not need one, but if you think you might
want one, I'd like to get that on my calendar, too).
* A web page,
announcement, or registry you'd like to share.
* Any additional
best ways to contact you.
* Anything
else you'd like me to know right now in preparing for this Happy Day.
I look forward to meeting you both and celebrating your wedding!
Vern
Here are some times in the next few days currently flexible for either a phone or an in-person visit. If we do talk by phone, please be patient with me as I sometimes have difficulty hearing, especially with cell phone connections.
My next few days are highly
scheduled but we can visit by phone or in person at these times -- please
let me know your choice as soon as possible so I can reserve that time
for you.
http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm#6
So glad this will work! This
will give us plenty of time to design the kind of wedding you want. Lets
meet at the default location mentioned on the website, the Westport
Coffee House, 4010 Pennsylvania. Its about a mile
west of Pilgrim Chapel. Im eager to help make the wedding planning process
part of the excitement of your preparations!
Vern
Hi
DATE TIME at the Westport
Coffee Shop, as suggested on the info page.
http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm#WestportCoffeeHouse
http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm#6
Will this work for you both?
I look forward to this!
Vern
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Id be happy to meet you THEN. My schedule is open that particular day between
Of course the ceremony should be want you want it
to be, and an earlier meeting with you and your beloved would give you
more time to consider options if you would like a more customized ceremony.
Another option would be for you to email me your thoughts about at least
items 1- 5 on this list http://www.cres.org/work/pc_wedplan.htm.
and that would help me prepare for getting together.
But if youd like to meet before then, Id be happy to meet earlier http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm#6. I want to honor your schedules and help make whatever planning youd like to do to be a fun part of your getting ready for your special day!
Vern
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TENTATIVE OFFICIANT W KIDS
Congratulations and Best Wishes on your forthcoming marriage!
Catherine at Pilgrim Chapel (816.753.6719) says August 18 is the day!
I understand youd like to involve all five children in a meaningful ceremony Including kids may be more important to them than might be immediately obvious. There are a number of ways to do this, and Id be happy to plan what fits your situation best.
Here is some general information about ceremony possibilities, the license, a little about me, and such http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm .
Wherever you are in your preparations, the Wedding Planning Notes, which you can download, may be useful http://www.cres.org/work/WedPlan-PC.pdf .
If you would like me to officiate, Id be happy to visit with you both to arrange exactly the kind of wedding you want. My email is vern@cres.org, or you can call (816) 753-1633 http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm#6 .
In any event, I wish you a beautiful and memorable wedding, and a wonderful life together as a couple and as parents.
Vern
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Dear
What a pleasure it was to get to know you last evening! Thank you for the dinner and the drive! Meeting young people like you gives me hope for the future. I am eager to be of any service to you, most especially presiding at your wedding!
Below are three versions of the "traditional" wedding vow for you to inscribe in your book for use during the ceremony so you can speak directly to each other.
You'll send me the names to include in memory of, for the Welcome I'll give as the wedding begins and words to help me finish the annoncement at the end of the ceremony: want to greet you at the door as you leave for the brunch reception at . . . ."
You'll send me the text of the readings just for my information, and let me know when you decide about the wine ceremony.
We did not discuss a rehearsal, so let me give my opinion that a rehearsal is unnecessary. Your ceremony is simple and reverent. I think you want the feeling of it being a real gathering with family and friends, not a performance. This is one reason why I like kids at weddings because they help make such occasions real.
Lemme know if you have any questions or changes.
May you enjoy this period of preparation for your wedding to the fullest!
Vern
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I'm available in the afternoon or evening of TIME, and I would be happy to meet with you when you are in town to plan the kind of wedding you both wish to have. Saturday morning is best for me, say 11:00? I'm glad Catherine mentioned the website, and it would be handy if you completed as much as you can at this point under PLANNING YOUR WEDDING on the left side of the Planning Notes and bring that with you. I'd be grateful if you can send me the time of your ceremony; I'd like to get that on my calendar right away.
Enough of these details! Let me back up and congratulate you and offer my best wishes as you plan your lives together through this important step of marriage! I am eager not only to help you with the ceremony, but if there is any way I can make the preparation time as relaxed while exciting and fun and meaningful as possible, please let me know.
Vern
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SIMPLE
I look forward to visiting with you and___
about your wedding. Even though you plan a very simple ceremony, I want
to be sure that it is the kind of simple that what you want it to be. The
information on the website may be too complicated for what you want, but
the ceremony belongs to the two of you, not me. I may some suggestions
about how best to honor your wishes, and in any case, you might be more
comfortable meeting your officiant ahead of time. Thanks for the information
you sent. Again, congratulations to the two of you!
Vern
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Dear -- PREMARITAL
Your wedding plans sound wonderful! -- and I am glad to be a part of them. As part of the arrangement with Pilgrim Chapel, I am happy to assist with wedding planning; but with a full schedule of other duties, I am not able to offer pre-marriage counseling. After we meet, I'd be glad to refer you to someone who can provide this service. When you are ready, let me know, and we'll find a table at the Westport Coffee House and get acquainted and plan your ceremony!
Vern
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MEET PILGRIM CHAPEL
If you prefer to meet at Pilgrim Chapel, please
contact Catherine to be sure it would not conflict with any events she
has scheduled. Pilgrim Chapel is a lovely place for a wedding, and I am
always happy when I'm invited to a wedding there, and I'm sure I'll enjoy
helping you plan yours!
Vern
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#FinalPrep
Dear
I'm looking forward to seeing you soon! I'll arrive well before your ceremony begins at
When you arrive, please put the envelope with the license and certificate on the altar. I'll want to get the license and certificate signed right away by your adult witnesses,
Some of the items on this wedding-day Checklist may apply and be helpful for you to review: http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm#WedTimeCheckList.
Let me know if you have any questions -- I am eager to see you!
Vern
Dear
Condolences on the loss of your mother.Catherine at Pilgrim Chapel says that you are planning a Celebration of Life for her on Wednesday, June 12, 2019 at 1pm. If I can help with this, we might meet together to discuss the observance and what you would like from me. I'd be grateful if you have an obituary or other materials you might send to me. If you have any questions.I can help with, please feel free to let me know.
Sincerely,
Hi --
I look forward to meeting you tomorrow at 9
and planning your ceremony! If you can bring a copy of the Wedding Planning
Notes with you or send a copy to me in advance, that would help move us
forward.
Dear --
Congratulations and best wishes on your forthcoming marriage! I am happy to be your officiant. As I understand the arrangements with Pilgrim Chapel, we'll meet there just before the wedding ceremony is to begin.
I imagine you'd like a brief ceremony. I am happy to do whatever you like. It can be a simple civil, non-religious ceremony; a Christian ceremony, or using material from another faith. You may wish a particular reading to be included, or a prayer, or if you want to write your own vows -- let's do what you want. You can let me know when you arrive at the Chapel. I'll be prepared if you want traditional vows, for example.
But if you have questions now, please write me.
A Missouri License, valid for 30 days, requires two adult witnesses to sign. After the ceremony, the Certificate, which comes with the license, is your evidence of marriage. I return the License to the courthouse. If you want a certified copy of the License for any reason, you can apply for one when you apply for the License; then, after the License is filed, the Court will automatically send you a certified copy. More information is available at http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm#LicenseCertificate .
Thank you for the privilege of being a part of your lives for this special moment.
Vern
The Rev Vern Barnet, DMn
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Dear Trish --
Congratulations and Best Wishes on your forthcoming wedding -- an elopement in a Christian ceremony, I understand -- with four adult children! This sounds wonderful!
I am always glad when the folks at Pilgrim Chapel (816.753.6719) call on me to officiate as it is such a beautiful venue.
You will need a Missouri License, valid for 30 days. For information about license and other details, visit http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm .
I will prepare a simple Christian ceremony, and if you have requests for readings or any other ideas, please feel free to send them to me in advance or let me know when you arrive at the Chapel.
Thank you for the privilege of being a part of your lives for this special moment.
Vern
The Rev Vern Barnet, DMn
May I "preach" a little? It is really important that your wedding be
a real event. In reality, unexpected things can happen. This is not a production
for a movie. This is not a performance. This is your love and commitment
to each other, more than a script to follow. A rehearsal is a good idea
so you'll have some idea of the flow, and to help you both to relax and
enjoy each other the next day. But we will not put chalk marks on the floor
to show exactly where you stand. Your love will not collapse if by chance
you happen to glimpse each other before the ceremony. Your marriage will
not be nullified if one of you holds out the wrong hand as the other seeks
to place the ring on it. When you have 60 people involved, you can't be
absolutely certain exactly what will happen. Emory is four years old. You
can't be sure what he will do. I am so glad you are including him. Kids
help us be real. End of sermon.
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walkin wants plann session
I'm sending a copy of this to the folks at Pilgrim Chapel so the witnesses will know the time -- and in case there is any fee adjustment. I think the Chapel understood we'd be making any arrangements by email or phone, but I'd be happy to meet with you in person as you wish. At present, the times suggested for meetings at http://www.cres.org/pubs/map_westport.htm#WestportCoffeeHouse are all open before your wedding date except Dec 9 and Dec13; those slots are taken. Let me know as soon as you can your meeting preference so I can get it on my calendar.
Since I did not know we would have the option of meeting ahead of time, I did not send you planning information, but you are most welcome to look it over: http://www.cres.org/work/pc.htm and certainly, if you wish, use whatever portions of the planning sheet you might find helpful: http://www.cres.org/work/WeddingPlanNotes.pdf . If you decide that questions can be answered by email or that planning can be done without meeting, I'm happy to cooperate in that way as well, including honoring your wishes given to me just before the ceremony itself.
I am looking forward to a beautiful, intimate, candlelight ceremony at this very special time of the year!