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If you have a problem with me, come to me
(privately).
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If I have a problem with you, I'll come to
you (privately).
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If someone has a problem with me and comes
to you, send them to me. (I'll do the same for you.)
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If someone consistently will not come to me,
say, "Let's go to the pastor together. I am sure he will see us about this."
(I will do the same for you.)
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Be careful how you interpret me—I'd rather
do that. On matters that are unclear, do not feel pressured to interpret
my feelings or thoughts. It is easy to misinterpret intentions.
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I will be careful how I interpret you.
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If it's confidential, don't tell. (This especially
applies to board meetings.) If you or anyone comes to me in confidence,
I won't tell unless (a) the person is going to harm himself/herself, (b)
the person is going to physically harm someone else, © a child has
been physically or sexually abused. I expect the same from you.
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I do not read unsigned letters or notes.
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I do not manipulate; I will not be manipulated;
do not let others manipulate you. Do not let others try to manipulate me
through you. I will not preach "at" you on Sunday mornings. I will leave
conviction to the Holy Spirit (he does it better anyway).
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