2. I Corinthians
3. 1 John 4; 1 John 3
5. Song of Solomon
9. Muslim readings
10. Gibran, The Prophet
Am Indian sources
12. Hindu, Buddhist
14. Shakespeare, Sidney
15. Barnet, Frost
16. More poetry
17. Robert Fulghum
18. "I like you"
19. Capt C Mandolin
20. Additional Prose
1. adapted from
Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12
Two are better than one, because they have a good
return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the
other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Though
one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. How can one keep
warm alone? If two lie down together, they will keep warm.
1a. original text
Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12
9 Two are better than one, because they have a good
return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the
But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help
them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can
one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
NEB I Cor 12:31b, 13
And now I will show you the best way of all. I may
speak in tongues of men or of angels, but if I am without love, I am a
sounding gong or a clanging cymbal. I may have the gift of prophecy, and
know every hidden truth; I may have faith strong enough to move mountains;
but if I have no love, I am nothing. I may dole out all I possess, or even
give my body to be burnt, but if I have no love, I am none the better.
Love is patient; love
is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense. Love keeps no score of wrongs;
does not gloat over other’s sins, but delights in the truth. There is nothing
love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and its endurance.
Love will never come to
an end. [Are there prophets? their work will be over. Are there tongues
of ecstasy? They will cease. Is there knowledge? It will vanish away; for
our knowledge and our prophecy alike are partial, and the partial vanishes
when wholeness comes. . . .]
In a word, there are three
things that last for ever: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of them
all is love.
NIV 1 John 4:7-12
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love
comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
This is how God showed
love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might
live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved
us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.
Dear friends, since God
so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
No one has ever seen God;
but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete
1 John 4:7-12
NABRE (Roman Catholic)
Beloved, let us love one another, because love is
of God; everyone who loves is begotten by God and knows God. Whoever is
without love does not know God, for God is love.
In this way the love of
God was revealed to us: God sent his only Son into the world so that we
might have life through him. In this is love: not that we have loved God,
but that he loved us and sent his Son as expiation for our sins.
Beloved, if God so loved
us, we also must love one another.
No one has ever seen God.
Yet, if we love one another, God remains in us, and his love is brought
to perfection in us.
3c. 1 John 3:18-24
Dear children, let us not love with words or speech
but with actions and in truth. This is how we know that we belong to the
truth and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence: If our hearts
condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything.
Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before
God and receive from him anything we ask, because we keep his commands
and do what pleases him. And this is his command: to believe in the name
of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us. The
one who keeps God’s commands lives in him, and he in them. And this is
how we know that he lives in us: We know it by the Spirit he gave us.
4. adapted from
Genesis: 1:27-8a, 2:24
God created humans in his own image: male and female
he created them. And God blessed them. Therefore a man leaves his father
and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.
5a. adapted from
Song of Solomon: 1:2-3; 4:9; 6:3; 7:11-12; 8:6-7
From the : O that you would kiss me with the kisses
of your mouth! For your love is better than wine. Your name is oil poured
out. Draw me after you; let us make haste. Arise, my love, my fair one,
and come away. You have ravished my heart, you have ravished my heart with
at a glance of your eyes. I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.
Come, my beloved, let
us go forth into the fields, and lodge in the villages; let us go out early
to the vineyards, and see whether the vines have budded, whether the grape
blossoms have opened and the pomegranates are in bloom. There I will give
you my love.
Set me as a seal upon
your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death. Many
waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it.
5b. adapted from
Song of Solomon 2:10-13; 8:6-7
My beloved speaks and says to me: ‘Arise, my love,
my fair one, and come away; for now the winter is past, the rain is over
and gone. The flowers appear on the earth; the time of singing has come,
and the voice of the turtle-dove is heard in our land. The fig tree puts
forth its figs, and the vines are in blossom; they give forth fragrance.
Arise, my love, my fair
one, and come away.’Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your
arm; for love is strong as death, passion fierce as the grave. Its flashes
are flashes of fire, a raging flame. Many waters cannot quench love, neither
can floods drown it.
5c. adapted from
Song of Solomon 3: 9-11
You have captured my heart, my own, my bride, you
have captured my heart with one glance of you eyes, with one coil of your
necklace. How sweet is your love, my own, my bride! How much more delightful
your love than wine, your ointments more fragrant than any spice! Sweetness
drops from your lips, O
bride; honey and milk are under your tongue; and
the scent of your robes is like the scent of Lebanon.
6. adapted from
But [to Naomi] Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave
you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay
I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you
die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me,
be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.”
7. adapted from
I Sam 18:1, 3-4; 20:17, 41b; II Sam 1:26b.
. . . Jonathan became one in spirit with David,
and he loved him as himself. And Jonathan made a covenant with David because
he loved him as himself. Jonathan took off the robe he was wearing and
gave it to David, along with his tunic, and even his sword. And Jonathan
had David reaffirm his oath out of love for him, because he loved him as
he loved himself. David . . . bowed down before Jonathan three times, with
his face to the ground. Then they kissed each other and wept together.
Jonathan said to David, “We have sworn friendship with each other in the
name of the Lord, saying, ‘The Lord is witness between you and me. . .
." [And at Jonathan's death, David lamented,] "Your love for me was wonderful,
more wonderful than that of women."
Therefore I bid you put away anxious thoughts about
food and drink to keep you alive, and clothes to cover your body. Surely
life is more that food, the body more than clothes. Look at the birds of
the air; they do not sow or reap or store in barns, yet your heavenly father
feeds them. You are worth more than the birds! Is there a person among
you who by anxious thought can add a foot to his height? And why be anxious
about clothes? consider how the lilies grow in the fields; they do not
work, they do not spin, and yet, I tell you, Solomon in all his splendor
was not attired as one of these. But if that is how God clothes the grass
in the fields, which is there today, and tomorrow is thrown on the stove,
will He not all the more clothe you? How little faith you have!...Set your
mind on God's Kingdom and His justice before everything else, and all the
rest will come to you as well. So do not be anxious about tomorrow; tomorrow
will look after itself. Each day has troubles enough of its own.
MUSLIM SOURCES (also see Gibran)
from the Qur'an
O believers, be in awe of God, and believe in His
Messenger, and He will give you a twofold portion of His mercy, and He
will appoint for you a light whereby you shall walk, and forgive you; God
is All-Forgiving, All-Compassionate; that the People of the Book may know
that they have no power over anything of God's bounty, and that bounty
is in the hand of God; He gives it unto
whomsoever He will; and God is of bounty abounding.
(tr. A.J. Arberry)
49:11-13 O mankind, We have created you from
a male and female and set you up as nations and tribes, so you may cooperate
with one another. The noblest among you before God is the one of
you who best performs his duty.
6:160 Anyone who comes with a fine deed will
have ten more like it, while anyone who comes with an evil deed will only
be rewarded with its like; they will not be treated unjustly.
29:46 Do not argue with the people of the
Book (Christians and Jews) unless it is in the politest manner, except
for those of them who do wrong. SAY: "We believe in what has been
sent down to us and what has been sent down to you. Our God and your
God is (the Same) One, and we are committed to (observe) peace before Him.
3:64 SAY: "People of the Book, (let
us) rally to a common formula to be binding on both us and you, that we
shall worship only God (Alone) and associate nothing else with Him, nor
will any of us take on others as lords instead of God."
from the Gayan of Hazrat Inayat Khan
My thoughtful self, reproach
no one; hold grudge against no one; take revenge against no one; bear malice
against no one; be wise. Be kind to all; tolerate all; considerate to all;
polite to all, oh my thoughtful self.
from J Rumi
When the mystery of love
is unveiled to you
You exist no longer, but
vanish into love.
Place before the Sun a
You will see its brilliance
disappear before that blaze.
The candle is no longer;
it is Light.
There are no more signs
It has become a sign.
10a. adapted from
. . . Together you shall
be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter
your days. Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the
heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let
it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Give one another
of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and
be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute
are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together,
yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And
the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
Distinct and personal, not one submerged in the
other, yet together you shall be forevermore.
10b. adapted from
When love beckons you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep,
And when his wings unfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the
north wind lays waste the garden.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught from
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
10c. adapted from
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires,
let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook
that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart
and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved
in your heart and a song of praise on your lips.
11. AMERICAN INDIAN SOURCES
Now you will feel no rain
for each of you will be shelter
for the other.
Now you will feel no cold
for each of you will be warmth
to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness
for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons
but there is only one life
Go now to [Here at] your dwelling
[to] enter into the days of your life together.
And may your days be good,
and long upon the earth.
from a Navajo Wedding Ceremony
Now you have lit a fire and that fire should not
go out. The two of you now have a fire that represents love, understanding
and a philosophy of life. It will give you heat, food, warmth and happiness.
The new fire represents a new beginning - a new life and a new family.
The fire should keep burning; you should stay together. You have lit the
fire for life, until old age separates you.
Eskimo Love Song
You are my husband, you are my wife
My feet shall run because of you
My feet dance because of you
My heart shall beat because of you
My eyes see because of you
My mind thinks because of you
And I shall love because of you
& Buddhist sources
Selected from the Brihadaranyaka Upanishad
A Wife loves her husband not for his own sake, dear
one, but because theDivine Beloved lives in him. A Husband loves his wife
not for her own sake, dear one, but because the Divine Beloved lives in
her. Children are loved not for their own sake, dear one, but because the
Divine Beloved lives in them. . . .
All things are loved not for their own sake, but
because the Divine Beloved lives in them. The Divine Beloved must be realized.
Hearing about and meditating upon the Divine Beloved, you will come to
understand everything in life. . . . As long as there is the sense of separateness,
one sees another as separate from oneself. . . . But when the Divine Beloved
is realized as the indivisible unity of life, who can be seen by whom .
. . . who can be spoken to by whom, who can be thought of by whom, who
can be known by whom? (tr. Eknath Easwaran)
The Buddha's sermon at Rajagaha; verses 19-22
19 "Do not deceive, do not despise each other anywhere.
Do not be angry nor bear secret resentments; for as a mother will risk
her life and watches over her child, so boundless be your love to all,
so tender, kind and mild.
20 Cherish good will right and left, early and late,
and without hindrance, without stint, be free of hate and envy, while standing
and walking and sitting down, what ever you have in mind, the rule of life
that is always best is to be loving-kind.
21 Gifts are great, founding temples is meritorious,
meditations and religious exercises pacify the heart,comprehension of the
truth leads to Nirvana, but greater than all is lovingkindness.
22 As the light of the moon is 16 times stronger
than the light of all the stars, so lovingkindness is 16 times more efficacious
in liberating the heart than all other religious accomplishments taken
together." (Paul Carus, "The Mahavagga")
13. CHINESE SOURCE
from the I Ching (often considered Taoist by Westerners)
When two people are at one in their inmost hearts,
they shatter even the strength of iron or bronze. And when two people understand
each other in their inmost hearts, their words are sweet and strong, like
the fragrance of orchids.
14. SHAKESPEARE & SIDNEY
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O, no! it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests, and is never shaken,
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown,
although his height be
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error, and upon me
I never writ, nor no man ever
Doubt thou the stars are fire;
Doubt that the sun doth move;
Doubt truth to be a liar;
But never doubt I love.
SIR PHILIP SIDNEY
Song from Arcadia:
“My True Love Hath My Heart”
My true-love hath my heart and I have his,
By just exchange one for the other
I hold his dear, and mine he cannot
There never was a bargain better driven.
His heart in me keeps me and him in one;
My heart in him his thoughts and senses
He loves my heart, for once it was
I cherish his because in me it bides.
His heart his wound received from my sight;
My heart was wounded with his wounded
For as from me on him his hurt did
So still, methought, in me his hurt
Both equal hurt, in this change sought our bliss,
My true love hath my heart and I have his.
15. VERN BARNET and ROBERT FROST
PASSAGE, Vern Barnet
I’ve come to this island where I don’t care
if you love me, though now I see your love
runs clear through me. What was my total fare
to this place? Well, I surrendered, above
all else, my rank tattered ticket to where
my clinging kept me from seeing who you
are, a pit I could not climb out of, snare,
delusions, dreams that never will come true.
We reach each other through the deep, through arm
and inlet, mouth, sound, sump, cove, bay and bight.
The quiet, rush, and churn, the sea brew’s barm,
the flood and drain are love’s career and rite.
O, something deeper than the
tips, changes, loves, and bodies
you and me.
WINDING WICK, Vern Barnet
I will not possess you, or try, for I
desire you fiercely alive; we are both
possessed by friendship’s fires which purify
all selfish frames and fences. So my oath
to you is ranging love, not caged display;
the flames within us, tongued, not fused, were
at the birthing of the universe. Stay
one with love’s process, not to me attached.
The candle cannot possess the burning,
though turning fire sits in the winding wick;
with light, dark is found —– as love in yearning,
and spirits dwell, not owning, bodies quick.
Since first we met, I
learned to let you go;
yet in my wick the flames
you gave still grow.
THE MASTER SPEED, Robert Frost
No speed of wind or water rushing by
But you have speed far greater. You can climb
Back up a stream of radiance to the sky,
And back through history up the steam of time.
And you were given this swiftness, not for haste,
Nor chiefly that you may go where you will,
But in the rush of everything to waste,
That you may have the power of standing still —–
Off any still or moving thing you say.
Two such as you with master speed
Cannot be parted nor be swept away
From one another once you are agreed
That life is only life forevermore
Together wing to wing and oar to oar.
16. MORE POETRY
Man and woman are like the earth, that brings forth
in summer, and love, but underneath is rock.
Older than flowers, older than ferns, older than
older than plasm altogether is the soul underneath.
And when, throughout all the wild chaos of love
slowly a gem forms, in the ancient, once-more-molten
of two human hearts, two ancient rocks,
a man's heart and a woman's,
that is the crystal of peace, the slow hard jewel
the sapphire of fidelity.
The gem of mutual peace emerging from the wild
chaos of love.
HOPE IS THE THING WITH FEATHERS
Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all,
And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.
I've heard it in the chilliest land,
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity
It asked a crumb of me.
SONNETS FROM PORTUGUESE 43
Elizabeth Barrett Browning
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints —– I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! —– and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
COME TRAVEL WITH ME
from "Song of the Open Road"
Listen! I will be honest with you.
I do not offer the old smooth prizes, but offer
rough new prizes.
These are the days that must happen to you:
You shall not heap up what is called riches,
You shall scatter with lavish hand all that you
earn or achieve.
Come, we must not stop here,
However sweet these laid-up stores,
However convenient this dwelling,
However sheltered this port and nowever calm these
We must not anchor here,
However welcome the hospitality that surrounds
Come, I give you my hand!
I give you my love more precious than money,
I give you myself before preaching or law;
Will you give me yourself?
Will you come travel with me?
Shall we stick by each other as long as we live?
I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can't help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.
I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good,
And more than any fate
To make me happy.
You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.
17. From Beginning to End
You have known each other from the first glance
of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided
to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have
been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations
that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks—all
those sentences that began with "When we're married" and continued with
"I will and you will and we will"—those late night talks that included
"someday" and "somehow" and "maybe"—and all those promises that are unspoken
matters of the heart.
All these common things,
and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you
are about to make are a way of saying to one another, "You know all those
things we've promised and hoped and dreamed—well, I meant it all, every
Look at one another and
remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things
to one another—acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner,
and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last
Now you shall say a few
words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite
be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world,
this—is my wife
18. From the book
I like you
by Sandol Stoddard Warburg:
I like you And I know why
I like you because
You are a good person To like
I like you because
When I tell you something special
You know it's special
And you remember it A long long time
You say Remember when you told me
Something special And both of
When I think something is important
You think it's important too
When I say something funny You laugh
I think I'm funny and You think I'm
I like you because You know how to
That's why I like you Boy are you ever
I never met anybody sillier than me
till I met you
I like you because
You know when it's time to stop being silly
Maybe day after tomorrow Maybe never
Oops too late It's quarter post silly
You really like me You really like me
And I really like you back And you like me back
And I like you back
And that's the way we keep on going Every
If you go away then I go away too
Or if I stay home You send me a postcard
You don't just say
Well see you around Some time Bye
I like you a lot because of that
If I go away I send you a postcard too
And I like you because If we go away together
And if we are in Grand Central Station
And if I get lost
then you are the one that is yelling for me
Hey where are you Here I am
And I like you because When I am feeling sad
You don't always cheer me up right away
Sometimes it is better to be sad
I like you because if I am mad at you
Then you are mad at me too
It's awful when the other person isn't
They are so nice and hoo-hoo you could just about
punch them in the nose
I like you because if I think I am going to
throw up then you are really sorry
You don't just pretend you are busy looking at
the birdies and all that
You say maybe it was something you ate
You say same thing happened to me one time
And the same thing did
If you find two four-leaf clovers
You give me one
If I find four I give you two
If we only find three We keep on looking
Sometimes we have good luck
And sometimes we don't
If I break my arm and If you break your
Then it is fun to have a broken arm
I tell you about mine You tell me about yours
We are both sorry
We write our names and draw pictures
We show everybody and they wish they had a broken
I like you because I don't know why
Everything that happens Is nicer with
I can't remember when I didn't like you
It must have been lonesome then
I like you because because
I forget why I like you
But I do So many reasons
On the Fourth of July I like you because
It's the Fourth of July
On the Fifth of July I like you too
Even if it was August
Even if it was way down at the bottom of November
Even if it was no place particular in January
I would go on choosing you
And you would go on choosing me
Over and over again
That's how it would happen every time
I don't know why
I guess I don't know why I like you really
Why do I like you
I guess I just like you I guess I just like
Because I like you
19. Louis de Bernieres
from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes
and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You
have to work out whether your root was so entwined together that it is
inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation
of promises of eternal passion. that is just being in love, which any fool
can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned
away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly
love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all
the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they
are one tree and not two.
20. ADDITIONAL PROSE SELECTIONS
The most wonderful of all things in life is the
discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing
depth, beauty and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness
of love between two human beings is a most marvellous thing; it cannot
be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort
of Divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life.
Thomas a Kempis from Imitatio Christi,
Love is a mighty power, a great and complete good.
Love alone lightens every burden, and makes the rough places smooth. It
bears every hardship as though it were nothing, and renders all bitterness
sweet and acceptable. Nothing is sweeter than love, nothing stronger, nothing
higher, nothing wider, nothing more pleasant, nothing fuller or better
in heaven or earth; for love is born of God.
Love flies, runs and leaps for joy. It is
free and unrestrained. Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all
bounds. Love feels no burden, takes no account of toil, attempts things
beyond its strenght; love sees nothing as impossible, for it feels able
to achieve all things. Love therefore does great things; it is strange
and effective; while those who lack love faint and fail.
Love is not fickle and sentimental, nor is
it intent on vanities. Like a living flame and a burning torch, it surges
upward and surely surmounts every obstacle.
Anne Morrow Lindbergh from Gift from the
A good relationship has a pattern like a
dance and is built on some of the same rules. The partners do not need
to hold on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern,
intricate but gay and swift and free, like a country dance of Mozart's.
To touch heavily would be to arrest the pattern and freeze the movement,
to check the endlessly changing beauty of its unfolding. There is no place
here for the possessive clutch, the clinging arm, the heavy hand; only
the barest touch in passing. Now arm in arm, now face to face, now back
to back -- it does not matter which. Because they know they are partners
moving to the same rhythm, creating a patten together, and being invisibly
nourished by it.
The joy of such
a pattern is not only the joy of creation or the joy or participation,
it is also the joy of living in the moment. Lightness of touch and living
in the moment are intertwined.
When both partners
love so completely that they have forgotten to ask themselves whether or
not they are loved in return; when they only know that they love and are
moving to its music -- then, and then only, are two people able to dance
perfectly in tune to the same rhythm.
from "Memories of Childhood and Youth"
To know one another cannot mean to know everything
about each other; it means to feel mutual affection and confidence, and
to try to believe in one another. We must not try to force our way into
the personality of another. No one has a right to say to another: "Because
we belong to each other as we do, I have a right to know all your thoughts."
All demands of this sort are foolish and unwholesome. In this matter giving
is the only valuable process; it is only giving that stimulates. Impart
as much as you can of your spiritual being to those who are on the road
with you, and accept as something precious what comes back to you from